
When Marriage Becomes a Death Trap
“Biodun harps on divorce once an issue of violence is raised. That’s not healthy in my estimation” This was the comment someone wrote about me in a WhatsApp group against Domestic Violence. I consider it a compliment. The gentleman who made that comment claims his

My Earnings are Taken
QUESTION I am in an abusive relationship, we met when I was 18, and even then he had a tight hold on me. When my daughter was young. My mum gained custody of her because of my husband’s abusive and controlling behaviour. A few years later, I gave birth to my son, my husband’s desire for control

I’m Being Stalked
QUESTION My husband has proved over the years to be extremely jealous and insecure about my family members, personal friends, ministerial and business relationships, with both male and female. He stalks me both online and offline and does so to people that I have a personal, business or

I’m Too Ashamed to Share it
QUESTION Domestic violence started in our home not long after we had gotten married. This day I had gone to get my hair done at the hairdressers, because of the queue at the hairdressers I came home much later than I said I would. He looked at me suspiciously and insisted that I was getting my

He Refuses To Talk With Me
QUESTION My husband spends months on end not talking to me. He ignores me, looks through me and acts as if I am not there. He doesn’t do this with other people, he pays them a lot of attention and runs around for them. He’s left all the financial responsibilities of the home to me. All the

I’m Mocked and Belittled
QUESTION I’ve had an interesting marriage, one of violence and abuse. My husband doesn’t seem to like me. I have a feeling he thinks I’m ugly. My teeth are a bit funny; he always makes faces and laughs at me in a mocking way. When he sees pictures of ugly fat women, he brings

He is Threatening to Hurt and Take the Children Away
QUESTION “My husband hit our 7 year old son, leaving a large bruise on his face then kept him home from school for several weeks until the bruise was no longer visible. He put his head through our living room wall and threatens to take the children away and make sure I never see them

Am I Safe Now?
I wake up in the middle of the night, look at the door. I can’t really see it because the lights are switched off. Have I remembered to put the chair behind the door? My heart is thumping. No I haven’t I throw the covers off, quickly get out of bed, drag the chair and wedged it behind the

She was frustrated and depressed.
“I’ve just got back from the police station, but they are not even taking me serious,” she told her friend. “I’m actually walking up and down the streets, I don’t know what to do or where to go,” she continued. “The police said it was a